Living With Purpose: Your Crucial First Step For Success

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We appreciate your interest in today's Meditation

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Life Skills podcast. We sincerely grateful for

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your support. Thank you so much for listening

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to the Meditation Life Skills podcast. Have you

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ever wondered whether finding meaning in life

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is actually important or is it just something

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made up by people? Maybe you get the sense that

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you should be further along in life, yet experience

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an overwhelming sense that you'll never get anywhere

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from where you are now. If you've ever wondered

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whether personal development works, it does.

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To lead a content and successful life, it's imperative

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to find meaning in your life. This is something

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that distinguishes you from others. The meaning

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you find in your life may not be the same as

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those around you, but that's fine. Your distinct

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meaning is what sets you apart. Once you find

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the meaning in your life, you can become the

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best of your being. In addition to that, you'll

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be able to polish your personality. Most people

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have no idea what they'd like to pursue or do

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with their lives. This is not just high school

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graduates full of aspiring wonderful dreams.

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In fact, it's most adults, even after finishing

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school, getting a job and making steady money.

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There's still room for clearly defining what

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their life purpose is. In fact, it's a conflict

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that often begins in adult life. Seemingly simple

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questions like, what do I want to do with my

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life? What am I passionate about? how can I make

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my life better, are all questions that pop into

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adult minds looking for ways to identify what

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they would like to do with their lives. In other

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words, they still haven't been able to identify

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their life purpose. But is this really as complicated

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as it seems? Well, yes and no. To put it simply,

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everyone exists on Earth for an unspecified duration

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of time. People do different things during that

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time with some being important and others not

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so much. Among these things, it's the important

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things which give life its meaning and sense

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of fulfillment. The unimportant ones are just

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a way to kill time. To make matters a little

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more complicated, ignorance towards their true

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selves is something that most people live with

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for a long time. They set up their lives based

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on others' expectations and norms, and in doing

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so may never be able to discover their true selves.

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Others who set out on the path to self -discovery

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find out that the journey is neither easy nor

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pleasant. In fact, there are plenty of hurdles

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along the way. When you set out to find your

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life purpose, it means that you hold yourself,

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your set of beliefs and values, and your likes

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and interests as top. priority. You look for

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things that make you truly happy or rather fulfilled.

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This also means that on the way you're going

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to displease others since you no longer want

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to live your life by their dictates. Yes, this

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journey can include confusion, conflict, some

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fear, quite a bit of misunderstanding, and a

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lot of doubt along the way. And last but not

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least, it also involves revisiting many choices

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you've made in life earlier. Think of it as spring

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cleaning of the mind that will ultimately lead

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to your life's true purpose. So... What is life

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purpose really? Life purpose is a lot of things

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but foremost It's the first step to living your

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life the most conscious way Here's one way to

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look at it. You may be very busy with a lot of

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chores and tasks every day But if you don't have

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a purpose intended for those tasks, then every

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effort you make will mean very little in the

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end. So basically, the goal in the end may have

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nothing to do with your purpose. This means that

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you could pursue your current goals for the next

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so many years and then come to realize that this

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wasn't what you wanted in the first place. On

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the contrary, if you have a life purpose, then

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that's how you learn to lead a conscious life.

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Your efforts get directed towards something and

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you enjoy every minute of it. And although this

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doesn't imply that your problems disappear, at

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least now you know why you're trying to find

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a way around those problems. You also know that

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you've discovered your life purpose when you

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feel energized in all your endeavors. You no

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longer dread the daily grind, but are eager to

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get your day started and get as much done as

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you possibly can. How do you measure life purpose?

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There can be a few determinants in this regard.

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For starters, there's making sacrifices. Achieving

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anything that's worth achieving involves sacrifices.

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Everything comes at a cost and very few things

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are uplifting or pleasurable all the time. The

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question that arises here is what sacrifice or

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struggle are you ready to make or tolerate? If

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you find yourself giving in at the slightest

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chance of pressure, then obviously this choice

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isn't your life purpose. But if you're willing

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to ride through the rough patches and stick with

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it no matter what, then you may be onto something.

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This is because what ultimately determines your

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ability to commit to something shows how much

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you care about that thing and how much it means

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to you. For instance, if you wish to become a

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successful entrepreneur, but aren't good at handling

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failure, you won't get far. or say your dream

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is to become a professional artist and don't

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like to see your work criticized or rejected,

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then there's not much scope for you out there.

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But if the same purposes keep you going despite

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unpleasant experiences, staying awake long nights

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or riding out the bad days, then you may have

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discovered what you really cut out for. You can

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also determine if you found your life purpose,

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if you find sheer joy in doing something now

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that you also enjoy doing as a child. Say you

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enjoyed writing as a child and only rediscovered

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the same joy of writing later on in life. A lot

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of times people tend to lose touch with what

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they loved when they were younger. Oftentimes

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it has a lot to do with the social pressures

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of adolescence or the professional pressure of

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young adulthood, which rings the passion right

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out of them. Instead, What remains behind is

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the lesson that the only reason to do anything

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is if there's a tangible reward for it. But if

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you can look beyond the physical reward for something

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and learn to enjoy the experience instead, it

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could be your true calling. Interestingly enough,

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vulnerability can also often point you in the

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direction of your real passion. If you're passionate

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about something, then you risk making mistakes

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to improve yourself. Making mistakes leads to

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embarrassment. And if becoming embarrassed stops

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you from doing something that you really want

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to do, then you should rethink your life purpose.

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Your real life purpose won't let you care about

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getting embarrassed. It won't concern itself

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with what others think of you, but urge you to

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pursue it. instead. When people feel like they've

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got no sense of direction or any purpose in life,

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it's because they don't know what's important

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to them. And when you don't know what's important

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to you, then you're just taking on other people's

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values and following their priorities instead

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of your own. And this is exactly what this video

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aims to correct so that you can live your own

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life based on what's important to you and not

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what others think is good for you. Let's revisit

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the idea of a conscious life once more. If you

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find meaning in your life, you'll be able to

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learn your purpose in this world. Experts believe

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that you can live your life in two ways. The

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first says that if you're conscious, you'll live

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along the same lines as others, yet you'll experience

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the same things differently. The second way to

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live is to live unconsciously. Broadly speaking,

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if you live like that, life will just happen

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to you. Think of it as a giant wave that keeps

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pushing you forward. You have no control over

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where you're going or why you're going there.

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In fact, the only thing certain about this situation

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is that you're just going with the flow. This

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kind of life isn't exactly ideal since you don't

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have much say in it. Yet many of us live this

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way. When you learn the meaning of life, you

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have a better sense of your purpose. You tend

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to understand why you're in this world. Just

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like that, you will have a clearer view of how

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you can contribute to the world. If you don't

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know your purpose, you'll hate getting out of

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bed. Your motivation to last through the week

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would be looking forward to the weekend. Put

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you in a challenging situation and you'll feel

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burnt out before you even tried anything worth

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trying. On the other hand, if you lead a meaningful

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life, you'll love the grind. Here are some tips

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on why it's important to find the meaning in

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life. One. gives clarity and focus. Look around

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yourself. You'll see so many people running after

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a host of popular things. Common offenders include

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earning more money, getting a house, then getting

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an even bigger house. Goals also include getting

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a car, the latest technology, and everything

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along those lines. Incidentally, all these are

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also material gains and rewards. And while they

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may seem very important to you right now, do

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they really matter that much in the long run?

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How about looking for something that you're passionate

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about instead? Something that you thoroughly

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enjoy doing? Something that brings out the best

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in you? It isn't uncommon that while running

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after money and luxuries, you become sidetracked

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from your real purpose. Finding your life purpose

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will help you become aware of the things that

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are important. Once you learn to look past these

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common needs, you'll see what's important. It'll

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help you set your goals and eliminate unimportant

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things from your life. If you keep pursuing things

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you don't need, knowingly or unknowingly, you'll

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end up Nowhere. By distinguishing between the

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important and unimportant, you won't feel lost

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and unaccomplished in 20 years time. You can

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also achieve success by finding the meaning in

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your life. Remember this one thing. Your success

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will be different from others. For you, success

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might be coming the next Newton. For someone

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else, might be owning the latest Audi. But worry

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not. This is exactly what meaning brings in your

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life. Uniqueness and contentment. Every day you

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have to become a better version of yourself.

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You have to get up and conquer the world to achieve

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Succeed or excel you have to first find the meaning

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in your life To teach is what defines you have

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you ever felt that external factors are defining

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who you are That you're being told what works

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for you instead of you figuring it out for yourself.

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Why does this happen? Probably because you don't

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have a life purpose or haven't figured it out

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yet. When you lead a meaningless life, society

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starts to define you and the people around you

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shape you. If you keep living by others' definitions

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of you, you'll find yourself in unfulfilling

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jobs and situations. Being human, we all need

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a mean of sustenance. However, you may be stuck

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in a job that you hate. You needed a job, so

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you got whatever was out there. The only reason

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you may have landed this job is because someone

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else recommended you for the position. The result

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is that you end up you go into your workplace

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tired and bored. Surrounded by people you have

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nothing in common with, all because you had no

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direction in life, you just needed a job. But

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as soon as you find some life purpose, you can

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work towards a career that better fits your purpose.

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If you're leading a meaningful life, your means

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and sustenance can also become your passion.

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You can find yourself in a workplace that you

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enjoy and co -workers who are compatible with

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you. Once you have a meaning and a purpose, you'll

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clearly see the people you need. In addition,

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you'll also be able to cut out the people who

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are toxic. It's important to find compatibility

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in people and surround yourself with those who

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support your meaning. Being around like -minded

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individuals who can help you become your best

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self can add even more to your life purpose.

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Three, keeps you connected with the present.

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The more you engage in a purposeful life, the

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more it grows with you. At the same time, it

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also makes you happier. Remember how we talked

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about the important versus the unimportant? Well,

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a purposeful life will no doubt be very different

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from the pleasurable. unimportant life that is

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transient, current, and illusory. In contrast,

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a meaningful life can become demanding and quite

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often a stressful one. More than worldly goods

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and luxuries, it requires planning, patience,

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ownership of actions, and the responsibility

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and the consequences of choices made. It's definitely

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not as accommodating as a pleasurable life because

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purpose requires you to be patient, delay gratification,

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and think for the long term. When you do all

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of this, it keeps you connected to the present.

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What this means is that you learn to live the

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best you can in the present. Your purpose keeps

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you grounded to your present rather than postponing

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it into the future. Say you're working on a book

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and need to get it done by a specific time. Now,

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you also have a family, kids, and other responsibilities

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to see. Your purpose in this case is to get the

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book written. So, despite other commitments,

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you make your best effort to give time to your

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book. At the end of the day, you'll know that

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you were able to squeeze time for what you love

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to do and fulfill your purpose, even though in

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a small way. It's one small step forward towards

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completing a project which means something to

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you. A connection to the present also helps you

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stay focused, passionate, and gratified with

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what you have. Focused because you know how to

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stay away from distractions, passionate because

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it urges you on to reach your full potential,

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and gratified because you're living a value -based

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life. When you think about it, it seems easy

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enough to find yourself. However, once you put

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this thought into action, things can quickly

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become hard. When you're looking for meaning

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or purpose in life, there are many obstacles

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that you face. This seemingly easy task can take

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quite a while for it to sort out. Here are some

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common issues that may be preventing you from

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discovering your life purpose. Societal influence.

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It's quite possible that you've already adopted

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the ways of society. Our society has certain

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standards through which we judge people and it's

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due to these standards why some people are popular

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and others are not. Perhaps societal influence

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is most impressionable in young adults. For example,

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if you're a high school student, you would see

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these factors around you. When you see that being

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a football player makes you popular, that's what

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you may want to be. Or you may want to be a cheerleader

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since they seem to be equally popular. Once you

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see this, you strive for the purpose that has

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been set by people around you. All this might

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not appeal to you or it may not be your calling.

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However, you give into the influence and ignore

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your route to self -discovery. Say your purpose

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in life might be to be the next Steve Jobs. However,

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in an attempt to be as cool as the football player,

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you lose yourself and societal influence doesn't

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end there. In fact, for many, it goes on beyond

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their adolescent years and pursues them even

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in their advanced years, always preventing them

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from finding their true calling. Low self -esteem,

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self -worth. This one is a real dilemma. How

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do you expect to love yourself if you've never

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been loved by others or you've never been told

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what you're worthy of? For many people the road

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to self -discovery can be tough without self

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-love. If you've been criticized by everyone

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around you all your life it could be hard for

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you to love yourself. It's possible that you've

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never been appreciated in your life for what

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you are. People around you may have always told

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you that someone else was better than you. For

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instance, your parents may have always compared

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you with your cousins, friends, or other peers.

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Your teachers may have told you how everyone

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else in the class was better than you. Or your

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boss has been quick to criticize your flaws,

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but shown little or no appreciation for your

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work. This negative feedback can really stop

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you from being true to yourself. In fact, it

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becomes harder to find your purpose until you

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love yourself unconditionally. Quite simply,

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How else will you learn about the things you

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care about or things that matter to you? To find

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your purpose, you have to give time to yourself.

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If you don't consider yourself worthy of your

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own time and attention, you're in a bad place.

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Because of all these factors, self -love becomes

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an impossible task. You constantly criticize

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your own self by comparing yourself to others.

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And in addition to that, you don't think that

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you're good at anything. Lack of freedom to dream.

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Not everyone gets to follow their dreams and

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it becomes one of the greatest factors stopping

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you from finding your purpose. Your purpose might

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lie in something that is considered unrealistic

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by others. Let's say you want to be a photographer,

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yet everyone keeps telling you that that isn't

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a very economic decision. They asked you how

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you'd feed your family. They also remind you

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of the increasing expenses and how your passion

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isn't going to be compatible with your finances.

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Even your parents have better options decided

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for you. They tell you that there are other jobs

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that will get you the money if you want to do

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something unconventional. They tell you how there

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is no scope for it. With this constant discouragement

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to follow your dreams, you can't ever discover

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yourself. You will lose the will to find what

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you were born to do. Then there are certain things

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that you're required to do by a certain age.

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You're expected to get a degree by a certain

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age and then settle down. It all comes down to

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the societal norms once again. In a race to get

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a degree and start a career, you forget to listen

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to your calling. Your calling is the true you.

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It's something that makes you. Once you respond

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to that, you will find your purpose. But if you're

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not given a chance to even think about following

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your dreams, how can you achieve them? Fear of

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the dark side Everyone has a dark side people

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who come to terms with their dark side are the

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most successful ones You can ignore this side

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of yours, but you can't make it go away Until

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you address it, this side will always remain.

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As long as it's present, this side hinders you

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from discovering your purpose. The reason why

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you don't find your purpose is because you're

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scared to get in touch with this side, and you

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don't want others to see it either. You think

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that if you keep hiding it, it will stop existing,

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but this isn't true. Your dark side is a portrait.

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of your deficiencies. It represents your flaws

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and your failures and encompasses the selfish

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and wrong desires that you have. When you're

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on a journey of self -discovery, you'll have

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to encounter this side. Yet, the fear of this

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side keeps you from trying to find your purpose.

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You fail to understand that this side can help

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you excel. Once you enlighten this side of yours,

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you can be your best self. The problem is that

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you do not want those around you to see that

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you have this side. It's your little secret.

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You're even afraid to see it yourself. How can

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you, a responsible father, have any selfish desire?

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How can you, a hard -working student, fail at

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being an honest person? You're too scared to

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face these questions. Yet it all makes sense.

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You find solace in looking at the bright side

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of yourself. This is where your comfort zone

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lies. It's this side that makes you feel good

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about yourself. Despite this, this side will

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never help you find your ultimate purpose. Another

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aspect of this dark side is a fear of questions

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you don't have answers to. It's easy and comfortable

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to be faced with questions that you have answers

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to, but it's natural to feel hesitant facing

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questions you can't answer. On the road to self

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-discovery there's a lot of questions you can't

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always answer. The thought of facing these questions

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scares you and that's why you try to avoid them.

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You become accustomed to easy knowledge that

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you have for yourself and because of this you

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don't want to be in an ambiguous situation. How

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can I not know this about myself? This is what

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stops you from finding your purpose. So if you

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somehow manage to cross all these obstacles You

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can find your purpose. It's just a constant battle

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with yourself and your deepest fears. If you

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win it, you're golden. Happiness versus fulfillment.

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Happiness is a code that all humans have. It's

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deemed essential and everyone seems to believe

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it. In fact, it's gained a religion -like reverence

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that everyone follows. But happiness is something

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that is relatively subjective. It can be big,

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small, Long term or short term. And since it's

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more of a general term, everyone can relate to

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it. Some common things that make everyone happy

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are family, career, a good job and money. Fulfillment

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on the other hand is something more personal.

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It's yours. And as such fulfillment for everyone

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is different. You can experience fulfillment

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when you pursue something you're passionate about,

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such as a goal or a dream. Perhaps you're all

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about helping others such as volunteering or

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maybe you're that person who engages in activities

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promoting continuous growth and learning. If

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you compare the two, you'll notice that fulfillment

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has a much deeper and longer lasting effect than

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happiness. Fulfillment is what you need to strive

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for. Why? Here's why. Fulfillment is unique to

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you. The foremost reason why you should opt for

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fulfillment is that It's something unique to

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you. It's something that sets you apart from

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others around you. Maybe eating right and exercising

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is what fulfills you as you know you're doing

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something right to improve your overall health.

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Your friend on the other hand may find workouts

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not so fulfilling as better health may not be

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what they are looking for. To them your workout

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sessions together may just be a drag. So while

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happiness is something that everyone feels the

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same way about, fulfillment will give you a unique

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sense of being and purpose. In fact, unlike happiness,

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which is strictly a feeling, fulfillment is something

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that you attain by investing time and effort.

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It's a feeling of hard work and dedication that

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leads to the accomplishment of your goals. In

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its own way, fulfillment makes you a complete

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person in terms of their Time spans, happiness

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is a fleeting short -term sensation while fulfillment

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is eternal. Being short -term, happiness isn't

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realistically sustainable. After all, how many

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people do you know who are actually happy all

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the time? Probably not that many. But when you

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compare it to fulfillment, you may know quite

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a few who are very very content with what they

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have achieved. This is because the idea of fulfillment

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makes it okay to not be happy all the time. It

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tells you that things will be okay even if you're

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going through a rough patch. Fulfillment gets

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etched in your brain and remains with you for

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a very long time. For example, you do something

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such as blogging which gives you a feeling of

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fulfillment. If being a lifestyle blogger makes

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you feel fulfilled, you'll invest all your creativity

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and energy into being one. On the way, you'll

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surely have some bad days. Everyone does. Yet

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you'll always have the contentment in your heart

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that you are doing something purposeful. With

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happiness, you never know how long you're going

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to be happy for. If you're happy now, you could

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hear some upsetting news, making happiness dissipate

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quickly. Happiness is not as personal since anything

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can take it away from you in a matter of seconds.

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Opposed to that, fulfillment is not affected

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by incidents, feelings, or people. It belongs

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to you. It is yours and you can keep it for as

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long as you want. Nothing and no one can steal

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your sense of fulfillment from you. Fulfillment

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gives meaning to success. Being happy with your

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success is great, however, this feeling will

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eventually go away. You might have won an Oscar

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and felt like you're on top of the world at that

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moment. However, if it's not something that fulfills

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you, that award is just a miniature statue in

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your home. On the contrary, if something makes

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you feel fulfilled, it gives you joy every day.

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Happiness is simply not sustainable. Fulfillment

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is. This is why that's what you should aim for.

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In addition, if you aim towards fulfillment,

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you're bound to work hard. If all you want to

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do is be happy, you don't need to do much. Even

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being with your favorite person can make you

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happy. Just like that, listening to any song

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can make you happy. If you're a foodie, a donut

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can brighten up your day. Sometimes happiness

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can make you lazy too. Hanging out with someone

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you like will make you happy. However, it will

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distract you from the things that you're supposed

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to do. When you strive for fulfillment, You will

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get things done on time. You will suddenly get

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an urge to get things done. At the end of the

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day, when everything is done, you'll feel complete.

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You'll be content knowing that you made something

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out of your day. Staying in your comfort zone

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makes you happy, but it won't take you anywhere.

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To be happy, you can take shortcuts, but you

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can't do that with fulfillment. This is why you

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will go the extra mile to be fulfilled. Plus,

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if you're doing something that fulfills you,

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you'll also be more willing to try new things.

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You'll think of all the ways you can get better

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at it. Suppose your job is fulfilling for you.

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Now, you won't dread the weekdays. You may even

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think of your work, even during the weekends.

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This probably explains really well why some people

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are always immersed in their work. It happens

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when you find fulfillment in your work. It makes

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you content and your life peaceful. Happiness

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is just one feeling. Happiness is a single feeling.

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Think of it like a rainbow. It's just one color.

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On the other hand, fulfillment is made up of

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so many colors. It's made up of passion, drive,

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emotion, grief, failure. You don't have to go

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through all of that to feel fulfilled. This is

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what makes fulfillment so special. There's nothing

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wrong with looking for happiness, but do you

00:27:24.059 --> 00:27:27.009
want to miss all the colors of the rainbow? for

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just one color. There are times when you're not

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exactly happy, but you're fulfilled. For example,

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if you're working long hours as a doctor, you

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may not be happy. You may have seen some painful

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cases throughout the day. You may have even cried

00:27:41.990 --> 00:27:45.549
when your procedure doesn't go as planned. It

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could be a day filled with grief, misery, and

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hard work. Yet at the end of the day, you feel

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peace at heart. This is because you feel fulfilled.

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You know that you did something which completes

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you. It's your purpose in this world and you

00:28:00.740 --> 00:28:03.680
do it religiously. For most, this feeling is

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enough to keep them going even when you may not

00:28:05.779 --> 00:28:08.539
be happy. The feeling of fulfillment drives you

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on. When you're fulfilled, you always look for

00:28:11.720 --> 00:28:14.500
ways to get better. You must remember that happiness

00:28:14.500 --> 00:28:17.539
is an important element in life too. However,

00:28:17.740 --> 00:28:20.640
it is not a brightest star as fulfillment is.

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Steering clear of false purpose. If you look

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around you, you'll see that most people follow

00:28:27.789 --> 00:28:30.950
the same dream. So much so that they all seem

00:28:30.950 --> 00:28:33.809
to have the same purpose. The most common example

00:28:33.809 --> 00:28:36.130
of this is how everyone believes their purpose

00:28:36.130 --> 00:28:39.319
in life is to earn money. In addition to that,

00:28:39.359 --> 00:28:42.619
starting a family also accompanies this desire

00:28:42.619 --> 00:28:45.220
to acquire wealth. This will sound very familiar

00:28:45.220 --> 00:28:47.960
to most people only because these are the words

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of your parents, teachers, and friends. You've

00:28:50.279 --> 00:28:52.779
always heard people talk about these basic things.

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They're repeated so often that it seems like

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these things are the sole purpose of humanity.

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But do you ever think about what role you had

00:29:01.579 --> 00:29:05.220
in determining these purposes for yourself? Were

00:29:05.220 --> 00:29:08.440
you ever consulted in establishing these goals

00:29:08.440 --> 00:29:11.380
or are they mere echoes of others telling you

00:29:11.380 --> 00:29:15.259
what your goals should be? Chances are that somewhere

00:29:15.259 --> 00:29:18.720
along the line others did the deciding and determining

00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:23.119
for you. Your elders, mentors, coaches and teachers

00:29:23.119 --> 00:29:27.440
took it upon themselves to decide for you without

00:29:27.440 --> 00:29:30.059
including you in the decision -making process.

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So what you thought was a choice was nothing

00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:37.559
more than suggestions or conditioned messages

00:29:37.559 --> 00:29:40.099
letting you believe that you were the one making

00:29:40.099 --> 00:29:43.160
the choices, yet at best they were instructions

00:29:43.160 --> 00:29:46.400
that you were asked to follow to determine the

00:29:46.400 --> 00:29:48.970
course of your life. But if you think about it,

00:29:49.109 --> 00:29:52.049
then something just doesn't add up as these are

00:29:52.049 --> 00:29:54.970
purposes imposed on you by others. It can be

00:29:54.970 --> 00:29:57.829
very easy to believe that a false purpose is

00:29:57.829 --> 00:30:01.130
your actual purpose in life. You could be influenced

00:30:01.130 --> 00:30:04.130
by family, colleagues in society. All these factors

00:30:04.130 --> 00:30:07.450
sometimes convince you that a certain purpose

00:30:07.450 --> 00:30:11.569
is your true one. However, in reality, it may

00:30:11.569 --> 00:30:15.509
not be so at all. Recognizing false purpose.

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The easiest way to recognize false purpose is

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that it's not your calling. Most often, it's

00:30:21.819 --> 00:30:24.299
something that has been imposed upon you by people.

00:30:24.559 --> 00:30:27.019
It could be a thought, an idea or a suggestion,

00:30:27.400 --> 00:30:31.740
but it's not your thought or idea. Many life

00:30:31.740 --> 00:30:34.640
coaches talk about how finding your purpose isn't

00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:37.299
related to money or career It's about finding

00:30:37.299 --> 00:30:40.339
your true self. This is the self that you've

00:30:40.339 --> 00:30:43.000
hidden underneath the needs of the people around

00:30:43.000 --> 00:30:45.720
you It's quite true that you tend to hide your

00:30:45.720 --> 00:30:48.849
real purpose underneath people's needs The society

00:30:48.849 --> 00:30:52.269
needs you to be a busy 9 to 5 person, so you

00:30:52.269 --> 00:30:55.390
hide the carefree artist inside you. Your parents

00:30:55.390 --> 00:30:58.069
need you to get a good degree, so you curb your

00:30:58.069 --> 00:31:00.849
desire to sing and dance for a living. Your family

00:31:00.849 --> 00:31:03.509
needs you to be there at all times, so you hide

00:31:03.509 --> 00:31:07.430
your desire to be a tour guide. It's due to all

00:31:07.430 --> 00:31:10.210
these reasons that you adopt a false purpose.

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Don't be fooled by this purpose. It doesn't come

00:31:13.630 --> 00:31:17.029
from within you. It's being fed to you by others.

00:31:17.549 --> 00:31:19.329
Suppose you're watching a movie with friends.

00:31:19.569 --> 00:31:21.390
You want to watch an adventure movie, but they're

00:31:21.390 --> 00:31:24.009
more inclined towards a comedy. You may resist

00:31:24.009 --> 00:31:26.049
for a while but eventually will give in to their

00:31:26.049 --> 00:31:29.170
constant nagging. In the bigger picture, this

00:31:29.170 --> 00:31:32.089
is how people around you can manipulate you into

00:31:32.089 --> 00:31:34.809
believing that false purpose is your calling.

00:31:35.269 --> 00:31:37.430
Why you need to steer clear of false purpose.

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Now that you have an idea of what false purpose

00:31:40.190 --> 00:31:42.960
is, you need to steer clear of it. Your false

00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:45.799
purpose can destroy you. It can make you do things

00:31:45.799 --> 00:31:49.559
that you don't enjoy or find meaning in. At some

00:31:49.559 --> 00:31:52.140
point in life, maybe 10 years from now, you'll

00:31:52.140 --> 00:31:55.240
regret not only the purpose, but also the time

00:31:55.240 --> 00:31:58.940
you spent aiming for it. If you run after a false

00:31:58.940 --> 00:32:01.940
purpose, you realize it sooner or later. In the

00:32:01.940 --> 00:32:04.140
beginning, it may seem like you are doing things

00:32:04.140 --> 00:32:07.579
right. Then you look around you and comfort yourself

00:32:07.579 --> 00:32:09.359
by saying that everyone else is doing the same

00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:13.309
thing too. Yet... Deep inside, you lack both

00:32:13.309 --> 00:32:16.869
contentment and happiness. Then you have an epiphany.

00:32:17.549 --> 00:32:21.349
A time when everything comes crashing down. You

00:32:21.349 --> 00:32:25.569
realize how you are just like others. You think

00:32:25.569 --> 00:32:28.250
to yourself, what have I done that they haven't?

00:32:28.930 --> 00:32:32.630
How am I different from them? How is my life

00:32:32.630 --> 00:32:36.769
more fulfilling than theirs? Did I spend my youth

00:32:36.769 --> 00:32:40.089
grinding and working to be just like others?

00:32:40.680 --> 00:32:44.220
If you steer clear of false purpose, only then

00:32:44.220 --> 00:32:46.880
do you find meaning in your life. To do so, you

00:32:46.880 --> 00:32:50.779
have to listen to yourself. What is your being

00:32:50.779 --> 00:32:53.980
saying to you? Don't listen to others around

00:32:53.980 --> 00:32:55.880
you. Don't listen to the guy telling you to be

00:32:55.880 --> 00:32:58.400
an engineer just because he knows someone who

00:32:58.400 --> 00:33:01.740
is successful as one. Your true purpose is something

00:33:01.740 --> 00:33:04.160
you want. It's something that you have thought

00:33:04.160 --> 00:33:08.200
for yourself. You're not expected to do it. You

00:33:08.200 --> 00:33:11.619
just want it. That's the beauty of a true person.

00:33:11.759 --> 00:33:14.779
You won't have to drag yourself to fulfill this

00:33:14.779 --> 00:33:18.619
purpose. Instead, you'll just get the energy

00:33:18.619 --> 00:33:23.359
for it naturally. Your passion will drive you

00:33:23.359 --> 00:33:26.099
to do your best. Also, when you steer clear of

00:33:26.099 --> 00:33:29.240
false purpose, you do everything fearlessly.

00:33:29.740 --> 00:33:32.519
When you're forced into a false purpose, it's

00:33:32.519 --> 00:33:35.400
often due to fear. The fear of your parents or

00:33:35.400 --> 00:33:38.690
the fear of being rejected by society. However,

00:33:38.710 --> 00:33:40.829
when you find your true purpose, you do it with

00:33:40.829 --> 00:33:44.089
love. There's no fear of letting anyone down.

00:33:44.430 --> 00:33:47.130
You know you're doing this for yourself. How

00:33:47.130 --> 00:33:50.250
can you steer clear of false purpose? If you

00:33:50.250 --> 00:33:52.009
want to steer clear of false purpose, you need

00:33:52.009 --> 00:33:55.430
to listen to yourself only. Ignore what everyone

00:33:55.430 --> 00:33:58.329
else has to say. Spend time with yourself and

00:33:58.329 --> 00:34:01.900
learn about yourself. You'll find what drives

00:34:01.900 --> 00:34:05.099
you if you care enough for yourself You'll find

00:34:05.099 --> 00:34:08.139
the things that excite you the most important

00:34:08.139 --> 00:34:12.739
thing is not to be fearful Don't fear failure,

00:34:12.739 --> 00:34:16.179
but be ready to face it. Don't fear rejection,

00:34:16.179 --> 00:34:19.739
but have the guts to face it People might tell

00:34:19.739 --> 00:34:23.019
you that you have disappointed them, but it doesn't

00:34:23.019 --> 00:34:26.940
matter You might be wondering how do I know I

00:34:26.940 --> 00:34:30.070
am not pursuing a false purpose? The best way

00:34:30.070 --> 00:34:32.829
to find out is by seeing if what you're doing

00:34:32.829 --> 00:34:35.969
makes you feel fulfilled. If you're following

00:34:35.969 --> 00:34:38.489
your true purpose, you'll feel inspired by it

00:34:38.489 --> 00:34:41.190
every day. You'll find new things in it to love

00:34:41.190 --> 00:34:43.989
every day. On the other hand, a false purpose

00:34:43.989 --> 00:34:47.429
will show you its flaws very soon. To steer clear

00:34:47.429 --> 00:34:51.030
of this flawed purpose, you need to define your

00:34:51.030 --> 00:34:53.690
purpose. If you have defined your purpose well

00:34:53.690 --> 00:34:56.150
in advance, you won't have any regrets later.

00:34:56.460 --> 00:34:59.340
Defining your purpose will give you a clear indication

00:34:59.340 --> 00:35:02.519
about your next move. This will ensure that you

00:35:02.519 --> 00:35:05.360
aren't going towards the pursuit of false purpose.

00:35:06.039 --> 00:35:08.840
What matters is you and your ultimate fulfillment.

00:35:09.219 --> 00:35:12.059
Don't let anyone tell you that you disappointed

00:35:12.059 --> 00:35:14.480
them because you didn't go into medicine just

00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:16.940
like the rest of your family. If making music

00:35:16.940 --> 00:35:20.280
is your purpose, do that. Antoinette Foy says,

00:35:20.699 --> 00:35:24.460
the core of your true self is never lost. Let

00:35:24.460 --> 00:35:28.289
go of all the pretending. The philosophy behind

00:35:28.289 --> 00:35:32.849
this concept is to let yourself in. Once you

00:35:32.849 --> 00:35:35.469
allow that to happen, you won't need to find

00:35:35.469 --> 00:35:37.969
yourself. Your true self will just appear in

00:35:37.969 --> 00:35:41.289
front of you. This is the ultimate way to find

00:35:41.289 --> 00:35:44.909
your true purpose. Just be yourself and do your

00:35:44.909 --> 00:35:49.210
thing. You're not everyone else around you, so

00:35:49.210 --> 00:35:53.530
don't even try to be them. The importance of

00:35:53.530 --> 00:35:56.920
defining your life purpose. Finding your life's

00:35:56.920 --> 00:35:59.860
purpose can help you reach great heights. Before

00:35:59.860 --> 00:36:02.260
you find your purpose, you need to define it.

00:36:02.480 --> 00:36:05.280
It's only logical that you do everything in steps.

00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:08.519
Whenever you decide to do anything in life, you

00:36:08.519 --> 00:36:12.000
take a stepwise approach from performing reactions

00:36:12.000 --> 00:36:15.360
in a lab to cooking. Everything needs to be done

00:36:15.360 --> 00:36:18.239
in steps. So it's quite logical to define your

00:36:18.239 --> 00:36:21.300
purpose before you set out to find it. Frederick

00:36:21.300 --> 00:36:24.409
Buckner once said, Purpose is the place where

00:36:24.409 --> 00:36:28.570
your deep gladness meets the world's needs. Before

00:36:28.570 --> 00:36:31.030
you serve the world, you need to define this

00:36:31.030 --> 00:36:33.409
place. You can't get to this place until you

00:36:33.409 --> 00:36:37.730
have defined it first. Gives you direction. Defining

00:36:37.730 --> 00:36:40.230
your purpose gives you a definite direction.

00:36:40.630 --> 00:36:42.650
It directs you towards your ultimate goal in

00:36:42.650 --> 00:36:44.710
life. If you want to achieve something in life,

00:36:44.769 --> 00:36:47.619
you have to be clear about your purpose. The

00:36:47.619 --> 00:36:50.159
most successful people will tell you that you

00:36:50.159 --> 00:36:53.320
need to have a definite purpose to win. Plus,

00:36:53.480 --> 00:36:55.679
you must also have a strong desire to achieve

00:36:55.679 --> 00:36:58.280
this purpose. If you have no direction, you'll

00:36:58.280 --> 00:37:00.880
end up going around in circles. Think of it as

00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:03.239
a journey. If you're going to go somewhere, not

00:37:03.239 --> 00:37:06.000
only do you need directions, but you also need

00:37:06.000 --> 00:37:09.159
a destination to reach. But you'll never reach

00:37:09.159 --> 00:37:12.219
there if you don't have the directions. Similarly,

00:37:12.340 --> 00:37:14.940
if you have no definition, you can't get to your

00:37:14.940 --> 00:37:17.300
purpose. But when you define your purpose, you

00:37:17.300 --> 00:37:20.559
know exactly what you're aiming for. Defining

00:37:20.559 --> 00:37:23.719
your purpose is the best way to dig deep in yourself.

00:37:23.929 --> 00:37:27.429
You need to ask yourself why are you doing something

00:37:27.429 --> 00:37:30.730
or why you need to do it. But no one said it

00:37:30.730 --> 00:37:33.090
would be easy. When you first start the process,

00:37:33.110 --> 00:37:36.329
you're bound to be confused. There will be so

00:37:36.329 --> 00:37:38.590
many questions that you can't answer and you'll

00:37:38.590 --> 00:37:42.809
face ambiguities about yourself. However, as

00:37:42.809 --> 00:37:45.309
soon as you define your purpose, all these doubts

00:37:45.309 --> 00:37:48.690
and confusions go away. You're able to see your

00:37:48.690 --> 00:37:51.210
goals clearly and you will know how to reach

00:37:51.210 --> 00:37:54.809
those goals. People who are successful know what

00:37:54.809 --> 00:37:58.630
they want and why they want it. They have a sense

00:37:58.630 --> 00:38:02.190
of direction. Most importantly, they know what

00:38:02.190 --> 00:38:04.989
success means and they're aware of why they need

00:38:04.989 --> 00:38:08.449
to be successful or lead a meaningful life. Once

00:38:08.449 --> 00:38:10.769
you define your purpose, anything you do will

00:38:10.769 --> 00:38:13.730
be in consistency with your goals. Every action

00:38:13.730 --> 00:38:16.429
of yours will get you closer to your aims and

00:38:16.429 --> 00:38:19.250
purpose. The first step is always to know why.

00:38:19.469 --> 00:38:22.409
Defining your purpose will help you filter out

00:38:22.409 --> 00:38:25.389
your actions. You'll be able to prioritize the

00:38:25.389 --> 00:38:28.090
things that you need to do. In the same way,

00:38:28.389 --> 00:38:30.809
you'll also learn about the things you need to

00:38:30.809 --> 00:38:34.289
cut out. Two, keeps you from getting distracted.

00:38:34.989 --> 00:38:37.409
Defining your purpose also keeps you from getting

00:38:37.409 --> 00:38:39.869
distracted. When you're on a quest to find a

00:38:39.869 --> 00:38:42.769
purpose, you'll be sidetracked by a lot of things.

00:38:43.170 --> 00:38:44.909
To prevent this from happening, it's important

00:38:44.909 --> 00:38:46.949
to have a clear sense of where you're going.

00:38:47.210 --> 00:38:49.369
If you just wake up one day and decide to do

00:38:49.369 --> 00:38:51.889
something, you won't be very successful. On the

00:38:51.889 --> 00:38:54.489
contrary, planning and defining will get you

00:38:54.489 --> 00:38:56.809
wherever you want. If you have a well -defined

00:38:56.809 --> 00:38:59.949
purpose, you'll actually live life and not just

00:38:59.949 --> 00:39:02.550
survive. For example, you might believe that

00:39:02.550 --> 00:39:04.969
your purpose in life is to serve others. Unless

00:39:04.969 --> 00:39:07.530
you know how you can do it, you can't do it.

00:39:07.710 --> 00:39:09.949
You might get distracted by people around you.

00:39:10.170 --> 00:39:12.989
They may tell you that you can do so by being

00:39:12.989 --> 00:39:15.750
a doctor or a teacher. So if your purpose isn't

00:39:15.750 --> 00:39:18.389
defined, you get distracted by other people's

00:39:18.389 --> 00:39:21.369
suggestions and you set upon a path that's not

00:39:21.369 --> 00:39:24.579
compatible with your calling. But if you define

00:39:24.579 --> 00:39:27.820
your purpose, you find the right path. You need

00:39:27.820 --> 00:39:30.679
to ask yourself important questions. Why you

00:39:30.679 --> 00:39:33.900
want to serve others? What drives you to do so?

00:39:34.340 --> 00:39:37.219
Why is it that this is your purpose and not something

00:39:37.219 --> 00:39:40.280
else? After answering all these questions, you'll

00:39:40.280 --> 00:39:42.780
have a better sense of your purpose. Just like

00:39:42.780 --> 00:39:45.579
that, you'll clearly see the path you need to

00:39:45.579 --> 00:39:48.639
take. When you have defined your purpose, you're

00:39:48.639 --> 00:39:51.599
not afraid to take risks. You're not afraid to

00:39:51.599 --> 00:39:55.260
do new things or unconventional things. This

00:39:55.260 --> 00:39:58.380
definition will set the principle for your journey.

00:39:59.079 --> 00:40:01.739
Three, keeps you organized. When your purpose

00:40:01.739 --> 00:40:04.440
is well -defined, you remain organized. Instead

00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:07.360
of constantly thinking of what you need to do

00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:09.619
next, you already have a plan set out. But when

00:40:09.619 --> 00:40:11.579
you do not have a definition in your life, you're

00:40:11.579 --> 00:40:14.039
always busy thinking. The process of thought

00:40:14.039 --> 00:40:16.079
is time -consuming and if you get stuck in this

00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:19.369
process, you can't hope to go beyond. To define

00:40:19.369 --> 00:40:21.550
your purpose, you'll have to give time to the

00:40:21.550 --> 00:40:24.010
thinking process. When you're done with it, you

00:40:24.010 --> 00:40:26.909
know exactly what needs to be done. You can enlist

00:40:26.909 --> 00:40:29.590
all the things that you need to do. If you've

00:40:29.590 --> 00:40:32.409
defined your purpose well, you can make a day

00:40:32.409 --> 00:40:35.510
to day plan. Some people are lucky in this regard

00:40:35.510 --> 00:40:38.269
as they have those aha moments, which enlightens

00:40:38.269 --> 00:40:41.289
them. Others have to think for a while. Some

00:40:41.289 --> 00:40:44.329
may even have to look around for inspiration.

00:40:44.670 --> 00:40:46.570
As soon as you've found your inspiration and

00:40:46.570 --> 00:40:48.449
your definition, you can start your journey.

00:40:48.510 --> 00:40:51.550
Think of it as a car ride. To start the ride,

00:40:51.750 --> 00:40:54.250
you need a car first. Then you need to have a

00:40:54.250 --> 00:40:56.530
clear idea of where you're going and why you're

00:40:56.530 --> 00:40:59.369
going there. If you don't know these things,

00:40:59.630 --> 00:41:02.389
you'll never be able to start. But if your thoughts

00:41:02.389 --> 00:41:04.969
are well organized, you won't have any doubts

00:41:04.969 --> 00:41:08.070
or confusion. Nothing will be able to distract

00:41:08.070 --> 00:41:10.690
you. A. Milne explains as well when he says,

00:41:10.690 --> 00:41:14.150
organization is something you do before you do

00:41:14.150 --> 00:41:17.139
something. He further says that you do this so

00:41:17.139 --> 00:41:20.579
that everything doesn't get mixed up. This makes

00:41:20.579 --> 00:41:24.099
a lot of sense. If all your thoughts and plans

00:41:24.099 --> 00:41:27.280
are mixed up, you're in trouble. Define your

00:41:27.280 --> 00:41:30.559
purpose. Stick to a single plan and you'll eventually

00:41:30.559 --> 00:41:35.820
find your purpose. Four gives you time for experimentation.

00:41:36.679 --> 00:41:38.199
While you're defining your purpose, it gives

00:41:38.199 --> 00:41:40.519
you a chance to experiment. This is the time

00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:43.630
when you can explore yourself. When you're defining

00:41:43.630 --> 00:41:46.730
yourself, you'll be able to see your real self.

00:41:46.730 --> 00:41:49.909
If you simply set out to find your purpose, you

00:41:49.909 --> 00:41:52.210
might find something completely different along

00:41:52.210 --> 00:41:55.449
the way. It might be something that will completely

00:41:55.449 --> 00:41:58.989
change your purpose. Then all your previous effort

00:41:58.989 --> 00:42:02.469
will go to waste. Now consider this. If you've

00:42:02.469 --> 00:42:05.449
already done all the defining, exploring, and

00:42:05.449 --> 00:42:09.250
experimenting, you will be more certain. By experimenting,

00:42:09.409 --> 00:42:12.389
you learn about yourself. You see your passion,

00:42:12.869 --> 00:42:15.730
your interests, and your talents. When you define

00:42:15.730 --> 00:42:18.250
your purpose, you may find things that surprise

00:42:18.250 --> 00:42:21.650
you. Imagine yourself as a video game character.

00:42:22.030 --> 00:42:24.889
You have to read the instructions first or watch

00:42:24.889 --> 00:42:27.610
a tutorial video. Without that, you'll be completely

00:42:27.610 --> 00:42:30.710
lost. Just like that, you need to define your

00:42:30.710 --> 00:42:34.610
purpose. Look within to find your drive, your

00:42:34.610 --> 00:42:38.380
reason, and your calling. You may have all the

00:42:38.380 --> 00:42:40.619
prerequisites for happiness, including a job,

00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:43.440
a happy family, and a big house, but why is it

00:42:43.440 --> 00:42:46.139
that you don't feel fulfilled? If you constantly

00:42:46.139 --> 00:42:48.679
feel that something is missing, then the missing

00:42:48.679 --> 00:42:51.800
piece of the puzzle could be your purpose. At

00:42:51.800 --> 00:42:54.400
this stage, you need to sit down and re -evaluate

00:42:54.400 --> 00:42:57.320
your life. Only by asking yourself and looking

00:42:57.320 --> 00:43:01.119
into yourself will you find the answers. No one

00:43:01.119 --> 00:43:05.070
knows you better than yourself. So it's you and

00:43:05.070 --> 00:43:08.969
only you who can find your purpose. Your job

00:43:08.969 --> 00:43:11.949
is to find this purpose and polish it well. Because

00:43:11.949 --> 00:43:15.110
when you accomplish that, your life becomes so

00:43:15.110 --> 00:43:19.550
much more meaningful. One, find what excites

00:43:19.550 --> 00:43:22.630
you. Most of the time your purpose is what excites

00:43:22.630 --> 00:43:24.789
you. If your current job doesn't excite you,

00:43:24.789 --> 00:43:26.710
it's definitely not your passion. Do you have

00:43:26.710 --> 00:43:29.030
to drag yourself out of bed every day? Are you

00:43:29.030 --> 00:43:30.929
constantly looking at the clock during work?

00:43:31.590 --> 00:43:34.949
All of us are born with a talent. We all have

00:43:34.949 --> 00:43:37.050
something inside us that makes us different and

00:43:37.050 --> 00:43:40.230
special. You just need to find this thing. Just

00:43:40.230 --> 00:43:42.469
a little warning, you won't be perfect at it

00:43:42.469 --> 00:43:44.809
the first time. You can't really expect to be

00:43:44.809 --> 00:43:46.989
perfect at something even if it's your talent.

00:43:47.289 --> 00:43:50.050
You have to learn it, earn it. Even the best

00:43:50.050 --> 00:43:52.849
artists and musicians have to practice and learn.

00:43:53.230 --> 00:43:54.929
But then how do you know what your talent is?

00:43:55.489 --> 00:43:58.110
It's something that comes easy to you. It could

00:43:58.110 --> 00:44:00.860
be drawing. If a pencil and paper excites you,

00:44:01.019 --> 00:44:03.559
then drawing might just be your purpose. If it's

00:44:03.559 --> 00:44:05.900
always been easier for you to draw than write,

00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:08.500
then look that way. Maybe you could draw straight

00:44:08.500 --> 00:44:11.980
lines in perfect circles without any tools, and

00:44:11.980 --> 00:44:14.579
your notes had more doodles than writing on them.

00:44:14.760 --> 00:44:17.260
Clues like these tell you where your real passion

00:44:17.260 --> 00:44:20.300
lies, and you shouldn't hesitate to answer that

00:44:20.300 --> 00:44:23.539
call. Here's something. Have you ever had that

00:44:23.539 --> 00:44:25.820
feeling when you do something for the first time

00:44:25.820 --> 00:44:28.139
but feel like you already know how to do it?

00:44:28.420 --> 00:44:30.920
That's the feeling you need to look for. Steve

00:44:30.920 --> 00:44:33.800
Jobs had the best advice in this regard. He said

00:44:33.800 --> 00:44:37.340
that you have to trust in something in your life.

00:44:37.719 --> 00:44:42.260
It could be gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.

00:44:42.739 --> 00:44:44.940
He said that this approach can make a lot of

00:44:44.940 --> 00:44:47.760
difference in your life. Two, ask yourself why.

00:44:48.000 --> 00:44:51.480
Why is one of the most powerful questions ever

00:44:51.480 --> 00:44:54.639
asked? You need to ask yourself why you want

00:44:54.639 --> 00:44:58.119
to do a certain thing or why not? It's important

00:44:58.119 --> 00:45:01.260
to focus on the clarity of purpose. If you know

00:45:01.260 --> 00:45:03.840
the why behind the things you do, you will find

00:45:03.840 --> 00:45:07.280
your purpose easily. As an example, consider

00:45:07.280 --> 00:45:10.699
the whys associated with your job. Maybe you're

00:45:10.699 --> 00:45:12.940
doing this job because it earns you a fine living.

00:45:13.079 --> 00:45:15.239
Maybe you're in this career because your parents

00:45:15.239 --> 00:45:17.579
pressured you, or you could be doing something

00:45:17.579 --> 00:45:20.440
just because all your friends were. If these

00:45:20.440 --> 00:45:23.480
reasons justify your whys, then you're not doing

00:45:23.480 --> 00:45:27.099
what your purpose in life is. When you ask yourself

00:45:27.099 --> 00:45:31.610
why, the answer should be fulfillment. And that's

00:45:31.610 --> 00:45:34.329
when you know you're face to face with your purpose.

00:45:34.710 --> 00:45:37.469
You need to ask yourself, why do I want to draw?

00:45:37.750 --> 00:45:40.809
And if the voice from inside you tells you that

00:45:40.809 --> 00:45:43.690
it's going to get meaning and fulfillment, then

00:45:43.690 --> 00:45:46.789
you're on the right path. This path will take

00:45:46.789 --> 00:45:49.849
you to your purpose. If the voice inside you

00:45:49.849 --> 00:45:51.489
tells you you're doing something out of fear

00:45:51.489 --> 00:45:54.570
or to fit in, then you need to let go immediately

00:45:54.570 --> 00:45:57.710
for that is not your purpose. Once you figure

00:45:57.710 --> 00:46:01.579
out the why, follow Nike's motto. Just do it.

00:46:01.880 --> 00:46:04.800
Because the more you act, the more things become

00:46:04.800 --> 00:46:07.760
clearer. So instead of overthinking whether something

00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:11.059
will work or not, should you try it, or what

00:46:11.059 --> 00:46:13.880
if you don't make money at it, start taking small

00:46:13.880 --> 00:46:16.440
steps towards your calling. On the way, there

00:46:16.440 --> 00:46:18.760
will always be people around you who will have

00:46:18.760 --> 00:46:21.380
discouraging words for you. They'll tell you

00:46:21.380 --> 00:46:23.699
your career path is unrealistic and useless.

00:46:23.840 --> 00:46:26.559
Or there are those who will forcefully make you

00:46:26.559 --> 00:46:28.519
believe that something else is your pursuit.

00:46:28.800 --> 00:46:31.320
You have to ignore all these voices and listen

00:46:31.320 --> 00:46:35.159
to yourself instead. Your true passion lies in

00:46:35.159 --> 00:46:38.960
only the things that you enjoy and love. Don't

00:46:38.960 --> 00:46:42.059
let others dictate this to you. or allow anyone

00:46:42.059 --> 00:46:45.219
to tell you that your passion is useless. Since

00:46:45.219 --> 00:46:47.699
it's something that defines you as a person,

00:46:48.099 --> 00:46:50.320
you shouldn't care about others' opinions and

00:46:50.320 --> 00:46:52.860
expectations. Just remember that you're doing

00:46:52.860 --> 00:46:56.039
it for yourself because you owe it to yourself.

00:46:57.099 --> 00:47:00.579
Three, explore your options. Many people also

00:47:00.579 --> 00:47:03.300
get stuck because they try to find the one thing

00:47:03.300 --> 00:47:05.920
that they're meant to do. But in doing so, you

00:47:05.920 --> 00:47:08.000
may waste your time looking for the wrong thing.

00:47:08.219 --> 00:47:10.780
Actually find something and then realize it's

00:47:10.780 --> 00:47:13.340
not for you or just become disheartened when

00:47:13.340 --> 00:47:15.519
that something doesn't work out for you. But

00:47:15.519 --> 00:47:19.380
why limit yourself to this one mentality if you

00:47:19.380 --> 00:47:22.699
could do so much more? The idea that you have

00:47:22.699 --> 00:47:25.099
only one thing that's meant for you can limit

00:47:25.099 --> 00:47:27.789
you from fulfilling your potential. For instance,

00:47:28.269 --> 00:47:30.590
you may be a life coach who writes, travels,

00:47:30.849 --> 00:47:33.730
speaks, teaches, mentors, and designs at the

00:47:33.730 --> 00:47:36.909
same time. You may enjoy every aspect of this

00:47:36.909 --> 00:47:39.510
job being equally good at all of them. You may

00:47:39.510 --> 00:47:42.650
feel equally passionate about being in any of

00:47:42.650 --> 00:47:45.289
these roles, which makes the whole experience

00:47:45.289 --> 00:47:48.909
of being a life coach more meaningful. So stop

00:47:48.909 --> 00:47:51.309
thinking that there's only one singular purpose

00:47:51.309 --> 00:47:53.190
for you when you could be doing so much more

00:47:53.190 --> 00:47:56.059
with passion. So don't hesitate to jump in and

00:47:56.059 --> 00:47:59.019
try new things. Stop trying to resist the unknown

00:47:59.019 --> 00:48:02.360
for maybe that's where your calling is hiding.

00:48:03.119 --> 00:48:05.860
Do follow your passions to make your life more

00:48:05.860 --> 00:48:08.539
purposeful. When you live a passionate life,

00:48:08.820 --> 00:48:12.119
it becomes your purpose as well. In fact, you

00:48:12.119 --> 00:48:15.000
only need to look for a purpose when passion

00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:17.920
is lacking from your life. This makes you feel

00:48:17.920 --> 00:48:20.480
disconnected from life. So to fix this void,

00:48:20.820 --> 00:48:24.260
simply add in more passion. If you need help

00:48:24.260 --> 00:48:26.840
with that, look at the people who inspire you,

00:48:26.940 --> 00:48:29.360
for they can help you find your passion. For

00:48:29.360 --> 00:48:31.579
instance, if an artist or a designer inspires

00:48:31.579 --> 00:48:34.780
you, their field could be your passion too. Do

00:48:34.780 --> 00:48:36.880
you find yourself spending all your time on social

00:48:36.880 --> 00:48:39.760
media pages of fashion bloggers or designers?

00:48:40.869 --> 00:48:43.949
Four, don't suppress your doubts. Suppressing

00:48:43.949 --> 00:48:46.329
your doubts is something that can stop you from

00:48:46.329 --> 00:48:49.010
finding your purpose. By definition, doubt is

00:48:49.010 --> 00:48:51.909
a feeling you get when you have to do something,

00:48:52.190 --> 00:48:54.869
but there's more than one course of action to

00:48:54.869 --> 00:48:57.210
choose from. You're not sure which option you

00:48:57.210 --> 00:49:00.949
should pick, so you give in to doubt. Although

00:49:00.949 --> 00:49:04.070
doubt always involves uncertainty about which

00:49:04.070 --> 00:49:06.409
decision will turn out best, it's not actually

00:49:06.409 --> 00:49:09.440
a bad thing to experience. If you let your doubts

00:49:09.440 --> 00:49:12.179
surface and come to terms with them, you're still

00:49:12.179 --> 00:49:14.840
making progress. But if you keep ignoring them,

00:49:14.860 --> 00:49:18.360
your life will become a mess. For example, do

00:49:18.360 --> 00:49:20.599
you have doubts about your current job? Do you

00:49:20.599 --> 00:49:23.019
feel like you could be much better at something

00:49:23.019 --> 00:49:27.039
else? Give this thought time. Find what you're

00:49:27.039 --> 00:49:29.659
better at. Even when you do think you have found

00:49:29.659 --> 00:49:32.440
a purpose and you have doubt, let that come to

00:49:32.440 --> 00:49:35.199
the surface too. Otherwise, you'll be stuck with

00:49:35.199 --> 00:49:38.340
a false purpose. In finding your purpose, you'll

00:49:38.340 --> 00:49:42.199
have doubts, fears, and ambiguities. Always remember

00:49:42.199 --> 00:49:45.179
the final point and joy you get once you're there.

00:49:46.139 --> 00:49:48.719
With this thought in mind, you will definitely

00:49:48.719 --> 00:49:51.980
discover your purpose. The grind doesn't end

00:49:51.980 --> 00:49:54.059
once you discover your purpose. When you finally

00:49:54.059 --> 00:49:57.860
know what gives your life meaning, you're excited,

00:49:58.039 --> 00:50:01.179
pumped, and passionate. But is that enough? Well,

00:50:01.380 --> 00:50:04.510
actually no, it's not. The next step in the process

00:50:04.510 --> 00:50:07.949
is to transition to your life purpose. This means

00:50:07.949 --> 00:50:12.710
making changes, perhaps lots of changes. So how

00:50:12.710 --> 00:50:16.809
do you transition? Here's how. One, set your

00:50:16.809 --> 00:50:19.349
goals. After finding your purpose, you have to

00:50:19.349 --> 00:50:22.510
set your goals. If there are no goals or aims,

00:50:22.989 --> 00:50:26.750
your purpose is useless. It's just an ideology

00:50:26.750 --> 00:50:30.920
that is not being put into action. You have to

00:50:30.920 --> 00:50:34.320
give life to this purpose. The transition state

00:50:34.320 --> 00:50:37.400
is a state where you start to give life to your

00:50:37.400 --> 00:50:40.440
purpose. This is when you need to plan how you're

00:50:40.440 --> 00:50:44.260
going to show your purpose to others. As Karl

00:50:44.260 --> 00:50:47.639
Bard once said, though no one can go back and

00:50:47.639 --> 00:50:51.340
make a brand new start, anyone can start from

00:50:51.340 --> 00:50:54.639
now and make a brand new ending. In your transition

00:50:54.639 --> 00:50:58.800
phase, you learn how to make your awesome ending.

00:50:59.299 --> 00:51:01.400
For example, you've discovered that your purpose

00:51:01.400 --> 00:51:04.239
is to blog and inspire others. What are you going

00:51:04.239 --> 00:51:07.000
to inspire others about? Are you going to start

00:51:07.000 --> 00:51:10.000
a self -help blog? Is your aim to be a fashion

00:51:10.000 --> 00:51:12.440
inspiration for others? You can't just get a

00:51:12.440 --> 00:51:14.360
website and wait for things to happen. Instead,

00:51:14.460 --> 00:51:16.480
you need to start writing. Put on your working

00:51:16.480 --> 00:51:19.039
pants and get to work. You can't be a successful

00:51:19.039 --> 00:51:21.300
writer with just an idea in your head. What you

00:51:21.300 --> 00:51:24.920
need to do is put this idea on paper. Likewise,

00:51:25.139 --> 00:51:27.880
you can't transition to your life purpose without

00:51:27.880 --> 00:51:30.500
a vision. If you don't have a vision, there's

00:51:30.500 --> 00:51:33.119
no way you can succeed. Your vision is what defines

00:51:33.119 --> 00:51:35.780
your purpose. If you have a well -defined goal

00:51:35.780 --> 00:51:38.199
and your purpose is clear to you too, the rest

00:51:38.199 --> 00:51:40.989
of the way becomes easier. Without a goal, you

00:51:40.989 --> 00:51:44.090
just go around aimlessly. Even the purpose you

00:51:44.090 --> 00:51:47.050
are supposed to serve, you won't be able to excel

00:51:47.050 --> 00:51:49.710
at it. Humans are functioned to work with rewards.

00:51:49.869 --> 00:51:52.269
You tend to work even harder when you know there's

00:51:52.269 --> 00:51:55.610
a reward involved. This is exactly how you need

00:51:55.610 --> 00:51:57.769
to transition to your purpose. Tell yourself

00:51:57.769 --> 00:52:00.789
that getting 10 ,000 readers on your blog will

00:52:00.789 --> 00:52:03.909
be your reward if you work hard. This will keep

00:52:03.909 --> 00:52:06.789
you motivated to transition to your purpose.

00:52:07.000 --> 00:52:08.800
You might not achieve what you wanted, but it's

00:52:08.800 --> 00:52:12.360
fine. At least you started the transition process.

00:52:12.440 --> 00:52:15.860
You'll get there sooner or later. Two, the fear

00:52:15.860 --> 00:52:19.179
factor. The major reason why most people fail

00:52:19.179 --> 00:52:22.059
to transition to their purpose is fear. The fear

00:52:22.059 --> 00:52:24.820
of disappointing yourself and those around you.

00:52:25.360 --> 00:52:29.079
Or the fear of not being good enough. There are

00:52:29.079 --> 00:52:31.659
these questions hanging like swords over your

00:52:31.659 --> 00:52:35.639
head. Will my passion make me a living? Am I

00:52:35.639 --> 00:52:39.219
really as good as I think I am? Will I end up

00:52:39.219 --> 00:52:41.500
disappointing my family, friends, and myself?

00:52:42.480 --> 00:52:45.199
However, you shouldn't let the fear of judgment,

00:52:45.400 --> 00:52:48.619
rejection, or disliking stop you from being your

00:52:48.619 --> 00:52:52.039
true self. How true is that? Aren't these all

00:52:52.039 --> 00:52:54.099
the factors that stop you from being who you

00:52:54.099 --> 00:52:57.599
are? Things will be hard, but you're transitioning

00:52:57.599 --> 00:52:59.920
to your purpose. Things won't always be easy.

00:53:00.190 --> 00:53:02.829
There will be times when you may want to go back

00:53:02.829 --> 00:53:06.170
to your previous miserable meaningless life or

00:53:06.170 --> 00:53:08.750
your comfort zone. In these times you have to

00:53:08.750 --> 00:53:10.809
remind yourself why you started in the first

00:53:10.809 --> 00:53:13.070
place. If these things were going to be easy

00:53:13.070 --> 00:53:15.730
then everyone would be doing it. What's the point

00:53:15.730 --> 00:53:19.570
of anything if it's unbelievably easy? The fear

00:53:19.570 --> 00:53:22.869
of change stops you from transition to your purpose.

00:53:23.210 --> 00:53:25.969
The fear of leaving your old life behind pushes

00:53:25.969 --> 00:53:28.489
you away from your purpose. There are so many

00:53:28.489 --> 00:53:31.090
people who have their purpose in front of their

00:53:31.090 --> 00:53:34.590
eyes, yet they are too scared to hold it or get

00:53:34.590 --> 00:53:37.710
it. Remind yourself why you took the first step.

00:53:37.949 --> 00:53:40.690
That will keep you going. It'll be hard to steer

00:53:40.690 --> 00:53:42.829
clear of people who divert you from the purpose.

00:53:43.230 --> 00:53:45.510
These are the people who have always been around

00:53:45.510 --> 00:53:48.820
you. Ignoring them will take a while and some

00:53:48.820 --> 00:53:52.079
effort. Similarly, the fear of deteriorating

00:53:52.079 --> 00:53:55.639
relationships stops the transition process. What

00:53:55.639 --> 00:53:58.500
you need to remember is that anyone who is sincere

00:53:58.500 --> 00:54:01.619
to you will support you. Once you let go of all

00:54:01.619 --> 00:54:05.539
your fears, transition becomes really easy. You

00:54:05.539 --> 00:54:07.500
realize that there's nothing holding you back

00:54:07.500 --> 00:54:10.199
from achieving your purpose. Your current reality

00:54:10.199 --> 00:54:12.860
has formed a comfort zone around you. This is

00:54:12.860 --> 00:54:15.480
exactly what you need to get out of. You can

00:54:15.480 --> 00:54:17.800
only transition to your purpose once you leave

00:54:17.800 --> 00:54:21.159
your comfort zone. Three, how to make this transition.

00:54:22.159 --> 00:54:25.099
This is the big question. Finding your purpose

00:54:25.099 --> 00:54:27.800
seems like an easier task compared to this. When

00:54:27.800 --> 00:54:29.739
you're trying to find your purpose, you're just

00:54:29.739 --> 00:54:32.599
looking into yourself. You're finding what you

00:54:32.599 --> 00:54:35.940
need to do in life. However, the transition phase

00:54:35.940 --> 00:54:39.500
requires action. It requires you to do something

00:54:39.500 --> 00:54:42.400
more than just contemplating. Financials are

00:54:42.400 --> 00:54:45.380
very important. Part of the reason why most people

00:54:45.380 --> 00:54:47.820
do not go for their dream job is that their dream

00:54:47.820 --> 00:54:50.360
job does not earn them enough. If you want to

00:54:50.360 --> 00:54:51.920
transition to your true purpose, you have to

00:54:51.920 --> 00:54:54.940
have a financial purpose. Your blog won't start

00:54:54.940 --> 00:54:57.280
earning for you immediately. So how are you going

00:54:57.280 --> 00:54:59.500
to eat and live for the time that your passion

00:54:59.500 --> 00:55:02.000
is not earning for you? This is what you need

00:55:02.000 --> 00:55:04.260
to plan before you transition to your purpose.

00:55:04.619 --> 00:55:06.780
You can start in steps, get a part -time job

00:55:06.780 --> 00:55:09.269
that runs the house, Now you can spend the rest

00:55:09.269 --> 00:55:12.030
of the time on making your blog a success, or

00:55:12.030 --> 00:55:14.369
you can keep your blog running with your current

00:55:14.369 --> 00:55:16.909
job. But you can always leave your current job

00:55:16.909 --> 00:55:19.889
once the blog is earning you enough. It will

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be hard to balance the two. But isn't that what

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following your purpose is all about? A few extra

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hours will make you feel more fulfilled than

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that nine to five work. Four, systems are important.

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To transition to your life purpose, you need

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to have a system in place. If blogging is your

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purpose, you need to have websites and photo

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editors. You need to get in touch with other

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people from the field to guide you. Look around

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and find people like you. Socialize with them

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and make your own little family. This family

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supports your purpose and will help you transition

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to it. Your blog isn't sufficient. Head over

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to social media and increase your presence there

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too. Get in touch with people and let them know

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about you. Part of the transition process is

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to make others aware of your purpose. Isn't this

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what musicians, painters, authors, scientists,

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and artists do? They don't hide away their purpose.

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They bring it out to the world. Letting the world

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experience your art, music, inventions, and words

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is the best way to transition. Slowly, yet eventually,

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you will get there. The transition process is

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just as fulfilling as the final result. Give

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it your undivided time and attention. Living

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purposefully is one of the most, if not the most

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enjoyable experiences you can have in life. You

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know that when you live with a purpose, life

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just flows. On the way, you're able to carve

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your own way as you pass through the ups and

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downs with your purpose always holding you strong.

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This is the life you want to live. This is the

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purpose you want to follow and these are the

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benefits you want to enjoy a Purposeful life

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is a useful life and the best way to lead a good

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life